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I was scrolling through LinkedIn earlier today, thinking maybe I\u2019d find inspiration for this week\u2019s \u201cChat.\u201d It didn\u2019t take long. I saw a post from motivational speaker, Sarah Cary<\/a> and the lightbulb went off. Her post was about a book I read many years ago and was pretty sure I still owned. I ran upstairs and scanned my bookshelf. Sure enough, there it was: Dale Carnegie\u2019s best seller, How to Stop Worrying and Start Living<\/a>. Could there be a better title for this Covid spring?<\/p>\n

When we worry, our minds jump here and there\u2026and we lost all power of decision. However, when we force ourselves to face the worst and accept it, we then eliminate all these vague imaginings and put ourselves in a position in which we are able to concentrate on our problem.<\/em><\/p>\n

-Dale Carnegie<\/em><\/p>\n

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\u00a0Mary Becelia, Career Coach<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n

Back in January if anyone had told you that we\u2019d be living through a worldwide pandemic, that school and many businesses would be suspended, that we\u2019d all be hunkered down in our houses, rationing our toilet paper for crying out loud \u2026 well that would have sounded pretty close to \u201cthe worst\u201d thing you could imagine, right? Yet every day you get up and get through the day. You maybe even accomplish a few things. Some of you are going to be graduating within a few short weeks, despite the current circumstances! You are getting through this!<\/strong><\/p>\n

But. If you\u2019re obsessed with worrying, you become paralyzed. Instead of taking action toward your goals, you fret and fulminate. You scroll your phone for hours, losing track of time, or lose sleep at night, staring up at the ceiling, leading to an unproductive day. Basically, you\u2019re stuck in a rut, bogged down by your concerns. And I know, despite my (sincere) happy talk in the paragraph above, that we all have valid concerns these days. I am by no means disputing that fact! However, worrying about the future isn\u2019t going to change or even remotely improve it.<\/p>\n

My life has been full of terrible misfortunes most of which never happened.<\/em><\/p>\n

-Montaigne<\/em><\/p>\n

As I leafed through my copy of How to Stop Worrying\u2026<\/em> and saw the many passages I\u2019d underlined back in the day, it started to come back to me: my mood when I first read it. I was in graduate school, working on my M.Ed. Most of my friends were getting engaged or well into establishing their careers, or both. Meanwhile, I was 24 years old, racking up student debt, living in a dark basement apartment, sleeping on a futon, and trying to ignore the fact that the country was in the middle of a recession<\/a>. In fact, I graduated into what was called a \u201cjobless recovery\u201d which was about as un-fun as it sounds.<\/p>\n

Our main business is not to see what lies dimly at a distance, but to do what lies clearly at hand.<\/em><\/p>\n

-Thomas Carlyle<\/em><\/p>\n

I needed this book at that time, and I need it again now. I can look back at 1991 with the benefit of hindsight and smile at the struggles I went through before I ended up working for two years at the Career Center at Vassar College. The information interviews<\/a> I conducted, the cover letters<\/a> I wrote, the resume<\/a> I tweaked over and over and over; it all paid off (eventually). But I don\u2019t think I was doing a whole lot of smiling when it was happening, I was obsessed: searching for job openings, tailoring my cover letters to each one, reaching out to friends and faculty in my program for support. And sometimes that\u2019s just what you have to do. You follow all the old sayings: put one foot in front of the other, take it one day at a time, put your own oxygen mask on first etc. Those sayings may be clich\u00e9d, but they became clich\u00e9s because they hold nuggets of truth that have been passed down for so long that they are considered obvious. But sometimes we need reminding of the obvious. Some days just getting up, getting dressed, and sending out a few emails is a victory. In the next few days, I think I\u2019ll be visiting more in-depth with Mr. Carnegie, and trying to live out some of what I\u2019ve written about here. And I\u2019ll remember this whenever the worry starts to consume me:<\/p>\n

Concern means realizing what the problems are and calmly taking steps to meet them. Worry means going around in maddening, futile circles.<\/em><\/p>\n

-Dale Carnegie<\/em><\/p>\n

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– Mary Becelia, Career Coach<\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"

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